Security

“How we need that security. How we need another soul to cling to, another body to keep us warm. To rest and trust; to give your soul in confidence: I need this. I need someone to pour myself into.”― Sylvia Plath

Almost everyone has felt insecure at some point in their life and we want to feel secure. In humans, the need for security is somewhat of an innate feeling which is established right out of the womb. As we enter the world, we are instantly taken from the security of our mother’s womb and placed in an unknown environment of fear. Suddenly, we are gasping for air and almost all of us are pricked with needles, which simultaneously takes a stab at our own sense of security. Thus, we are all born with this innate need to feel secure and when that security is threatened, it instigates fear, for some more than others. This desire for Security or Safety is manifested in our lives in many different forms; financial security, emotional security and physical security/safety. This idea was explored by psychologist Abraham Maslow in his Hierarchy of Needs. In this model, Safety includes "protection from elements, security, order, law, stability, & freedom from fear." Some people seek security financially and find solace in the assurance that they will have the financial means to get what they need in the future and feel comfortable in the present. Emotionally, people seek security in their relationships, with a need to feel safe to share their thoughts, actions and feelings with the close people in their life. Lastly, though Physical security seems rather self-explanatory, many people suffer at the most basic level because they don’t even feel safe walking down the street in their own community. It is important to us as human beings that we feel safe.

“If money is your hope for independence, you will never have it. The only real security that a man can have in this world is a reserve of knowledge, experience and ability.”― Henry Ford

If you have a core motivator of security, it is important that you understand what it is that you’re craving that needs to be secured. If this need for security gets out of whack, you never feel safe, which can have negative effects in your life and can keep you from doing and experiencing things. So much of needing to feel secure is a mistrust and fear of the unknown. However, if you come to terms with that you can lead a much happier life. Jiddu Krishnamurti explores some of this difficult concept in this eccentric video.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=syP2vpYwVvo

“In a pine tree,A few yards away from my window sill,A brilliant blue jay is springing up and down, up and down,On a branch.I laugh, as I see him abandon himselfTo entire delight, for he knows as well as I doThat the branch will not break.”― James Wright, The Branch Will Not Break